I find it really difficult to say no to people. I like to be helpful and I like to be busy. Together, these two qualities don't make for a gentle pace of life, which I sometimes crave. Over the past three years, I have become more and more involved in the community and at both schools. I am treasurer in the PTA in one school, an ordinary member of the parent council in the other school, I have been a committee member in the community club. I started this blog.... As if this community involvement was not enough, I joined a book group, continued my German knit group and started taking various sewing classes. I also went back to work. At the beginning of this year I resumed various sports activities, which I had given up over the past two years due to aches and pains. I have a busy social life, too.
Totally bonkers, eh? Some of the things I was happy to do previously turned into chores. As life got more and more out of control I realised that I just had to give up commitments and reorganise other activities if I wanted to maintain a degree of sanity and have some quality time with the kids. Luckily I see Richard at work :-)
I have made a good start. It was so difficult to say no, I am not doing this anymore but I have managed without loosing any sleep over it. I have said no to the community club committee. I have given up the book group and the parent council. I do all my exercise during my lunch hour. I delegate more housework to the older kids (my list of what to do is going down a treat - not).
Already, I feel more in control, the hamster wheel is turning more slowly. I have of course not spent every waking moment worrying about all my commitments and each on its own didn't take up that much time but my mind feels more rested because I can focus on fewer now. Already I have more time for things that I really enjoy. I started reading a new book with James and Alistair, something I haven't done in a while. I have more energy to deal the issues young adulthood brings (I do think it is an awfully tricky transition. I can go on a beaver and cub scout trip with James and Alistair without thinking I should be doing something else. I can resume my yoga classes, which I have given up years ago but missed ever since and I can continue to improve my clothes sewing skills.
No doubt the hamster wheel will speed up again but for now, all is good. To add to my general upbeat mood, the weather in Glasgow is STILL glorious! This must be the longest spell of dry and warm weather we've had in at least a year and I am grateful for every minute it continues. Wishing you a happy Wednesday. x