Monday randoms





I am not feeling it just now, I really don't. It is difficult to resist the temptation of turning over in the morning and go back to sleep. I am also suffering from an inability to concentrate and can't follow one idea from beginning to end. I have eyed the thermostat this evening but have resisted the urge to put the heating on. We have a camping trip planned for the end of the month, and it would be silly to get used to cosy evenings before this is over!

Sam is out enjoying fresher's week. Fresher's fortnight it is now actually. I am glad he is a home student, fewer adjustments for all and less costly, too. I went to Tesco's the other day and it was jam packed full with parents and brand new students shopping for towels and bedding and whatnot. We still have to discuss an allowance to cover for general expenses, like an Uber home after a late night fresher's event. These all start at 11 pm! He's been to some kind of speed dating event where he met 100 other freshers in a very short time. I am tired just thinking about this.

James broke up with his "girlfriend" because his friends told him that the relationship is not going anywhere. No, I am not making this up and we are talking about 10 and 11 year olds. I spent two days fixing James' life because he really really likes this girl and they love hanging out, doing what friends in this age bracket do. The poor girl was upset, even more so because the message was conveyed via one of the pals,  a girl no less. James was upset and I am upset. It is all good now. It is not the first time that his pals have taken advantage of this gullible and emotionally immature little boy, getting him to do stuff they themselves would not do. It is only going to get worse. I am dreading James' teenage years to be honest. "Hey James, see that blue pill? Do you want to see what it does to you?" and "Hey James, see that train track? Lets walk on it, just for fun" are just two of a million scenarios that go through my mind, most ending in disaster.

James and Alistair have been grounded. Last Monday, they were allowed to go to the playground after dinner, with the instructions to return at a particular time. They didn't. I went to fetch them and they were not at the playground. I was cross and and mildly worried so asked Richard to go to the pitch where we both just knew they had gone instead, saving time as I still had to walk back home. The pitch is in the opposite direction and we had expressly forbidden them to go there (it is used for by a football club on Mondays). Richard found them in the middle of the t-junction near the pitch less than 10 metres from the pedestrian crossing with traffic lights. It is not a terribly busy road but one cannot be careful enough. They must have realised their tardiness and forgot all common sense. Well, they don't actually have much common sense, just impulse and action. They have been on a complete screen ban and playing outside with friends ban. I know it is going to happen again. As I said, impulse and action comes before thoughtful consideration. I am not sure what to do, accept and hope for the best, or persevere with trying to get the message through?

It is all go here!

I have been working on Alistair's quilt, you can see the photos here. It is a bit boring to be honest. The curves are easy, not the challenge I was hoping for. I suppose I sew garments with princess seams and set sleeves that need a bit of easing, both useful skills for curved quilt blocks. I have just a few more blocks to make and have sewn 2/3 of the top. I am curiously unexcited about this quilt but I hope once I reach the actual quilting stage, it will be more fun. I want to stitch around the circles, outside and inside. I am not bored of my hexagon quilt yet. I have just crossed the hallway mark and today, 360 hexagons are neatly sewed together. I have selected the next three rows of hexagons and packed each row into its little ziplock bag to take to work. Being a one woman team has its advantages!

Term is about to start and while I am looking forward to starting with a new cohort I am not looking forward to the evening tutorials. Our students are normally in full time work and evening tutorials suit best. It is a long slog until Christmas now, no half term for the grownups in this house. I may sneak in a day or two here and there, the hours are quite punishing and I end up with plenty of (unpaid) overtime. I am working this evening, and again on Wednesday evening. As with everything, it takes a bit of time to adjust.

I have been eating apples from the tree outside our front door. The taste sensation is a surprise every single time. The apple variety is tart and sweet at the same time but it takes a moment or two for the flavour to fully develop in my mouth. I don't remember the variety but it is not one that I have seen at the supermarket. The skin is quite tough and I am tempted to peel the fruit but I haven't done this so far. I am not sure if I love them or not. I probably do. An apple with a difference.

The dog is in the dog house. He has been running away on our walks. Sam and I both experienced this several times but not Richard. It is hugely annoying. Jack has excellent recall - when it suits him. I think the problem are the huge number of foxes this year, I have never seen as many. I am mostly worried about Jack being run over by a car, he has no road sense (a common theme in my family it appears). I also feel a bit silly walking along the canal, calling and whistling. It makes no difference whatsoever, Jack comes back when he's had enough, pretending that he has never left my side.

Now I must sew some hexagons on my quilt, I am behind my daily required minimum :-) Thanks for stopping by. xx







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  1. Oh Christina, parenting is hard, isn't it? I've zero experience, but I see it with my friends.

    Your quilt is really beautiful. I've never done curved quilt blocks and thought it was more difficult.

    I hope you have a good week. Take care.

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  2. Well if it is any consolation, the quilt looks lovely. Mine is still at the cutting a gazillion tiny squares stage. My girl had two days at secondary school and then lost her locker key! honestly I said she had to ask the bus driver or get £5 out of her own money to get another as a way to get her to ask - she did - he had found it. So much new stuff for her to remember but she is trying really hard. Sounds busy up your end of the island. Jo x

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  3. Oh dear Christina, I do hope things improve for you. I don't think I would've done any different to you. The consequence approach is the best that any parent would probably think of too. You can't do any more than that as it's too controlling. As for Jack, well dogs are harder to reason with. I'm guessing keeping him on the lead hasn't been an option, I remember my dog (yrs ago) would pull like crazy on the lead. Maybe Richard can offer his secret technique, or take up the chore more often. It sounds like you're doing a fantastic job at understanding your family, your quilt is looking good too. Thinking of you & hoping you have a good week, Cathy x

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  4. I think you're doing a great job with four kids at different stages of growth. It's so hard sometimes, though. I totally get it. I hope you're feeling more like yourself soon. Hugs.

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  5. It sounds like it's all happening at once for you right now. I understand your concerns about James, both my kids are on the Autism spectrum and I'm a little fearful of the teenage years that are looming. Alistair's quilt is lovely and bright and I'm looking forward to seeing your hexagon quilt. xx Susan

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  6. i get it.. i really do!
    and i love that quilt!!!

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  7. Parenting is never easy and it sounds like you have a lot on your plate at the moment. At least when they are little, for the most part at least, you know where they are and what they are doing.
    The quilt looks lovely. X

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  8. Boys and terriers are alike in so many ways! All impulse, action and no common sense, but isn't that why we love them? Like the way your iron matches your quilt :)

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  9. I would like to pass on some pearls of wisdom but sadly I don't have any. Just console yourself that your are doing a great job and remind yourself that you are all lucky to have found each other. Love the quilt.

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  10. Family Life - not for the faint hearted! Your curved quilt top looks amazing, I am interested to hear that the curved seams are not as hard as usually thought. X

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  11. I had one girl, who was pretty easy, so thankful for that. I really like your circle quilt and have been toying with having a go at quilting -wondered if you could recommend a tutorial or book x

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  12. Hmm, boys and dogs, heh? Your quilt looks amazing to me but I'm sorry you're finding it less challenging than you'd hoped. Our little apple tree has finished so we're on to apples from my in laws- their skins are quite tough too but the taste is delicious. It will be hard going back to supermarket ones afterwards. Hope the week improves and the children don't worry you too much (if that's even possible, I'm not sure it is) xx

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  13. "I was cross ..."

    I like that. It's not a word I hear a lot over this way. But I have British ancestry, and it takes me back to hear the word again.

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  14. Poor James, it's scary when friends take advantage. Glad you were able to sort it out. Boys! Two or more boys together is just a disaster waiting to happen. Jack sounds like he's been hanging out with the boys too much.
    Love the quilt, it's so different.

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  15. I hope things calm down for you soon. It sounds like you're on top of it all, even if it doesn't feel like it just now. I also hope Sam has a wonderful time at uni this year - my eldest couldn't wait to go back!
    I absolutely love the quilt - what a riot of colour and pattern. Sewing quilts is pretty easy after sewing garments, I agree, but that's why I like it! I view them as a sort of mind, palate and stash cleanser...
    There are lots of foxes this year - my poor hens are under attack and one was taken recently. They seem to calm down in the winter for some reason, so hopefully that'll help - if we can hang on that long. X

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  16. James is learning the hard way about peer pressure. Good thing you're on top of helping him learn about it and how to not listen to bad advice. When I was going through things like that my mother had no idea nor advice. I never confided in her. He's lucky to have you! We have to walk our dog on a leash or he'd get run over for sure as he races off if he sees a squirrel. LOVE the quilt progress! ((hugs)), Teresa :-)

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  17. Oh, boys and dogs are hard work aren't they. Great that Sam can stay at home for Uni, it will save you a fortune. Sorry that James was upset, that's such a shame. Hopefully he'll be wiser now, although I know that mine are quick to repeat the same mistakes. The quilt is looking amazing, those curves are perfection, clever you. Hope it's a good week, with at least a little down time. I'm not really feeling it at the moment either, don't know why, but I'm missing the usual September energy. CJ xx

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  18. Hi Christina - I enjoyed reading this post so much. Your stoic approach to the trials of family life is so refreshing. I'm pleased Sam is enjoying his Freshers' Week. Kate is off to Sheffield this week so we have busy shopping for bedding, towels, cheap kitchen equipment etc like the parents you saw. Will be strange without her and I will no longer have an ally in the thermostat war which begins in our house every September. Husband doesn't feel the cold but I already have been wrapping myself in a blanket in the evenings and even lit the log burner once. Our dog also runs off at every opportunity, escaping when he can to sniff around and leave his mark in neighbours' gardens. Xx Doris

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  19. Your descriptions of daily life in a household with varying ages of children and a pet is always refreshing, Christina. I have never been a birth parent, but my husband has daughters, now grown, and while I was not in their lives during childhood, he has told me stories about the trials (and joy) of parenthood. I hope that James will not be easily swayed by peer pressures and the fact that you are aware of his vulnerability is a huge plus in his favor.

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  20. Oh Christina, I get the feeling that everything feels a bit much and somewhat overwhelming at the moment. I have a 25 year old who is still just as gullible but mostly he gets by and things work out so don't fret too much. As for dogs running away... I've no solution for that type of selective hearing! The quilt looks fabulous. Xx

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  21. I had no idea that poutine had crossed the pond. It all began some years ago in Quebec, but for it to have spread so far ...

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  22. I find that sewing really does mend many things or at least offers up some time to focus on other things for a while. The colours in your quilt are beautiful and apples from right outside your door sounds quite the way to eat them ... straight from the tree! We have a dog that trundles off any chance he gets, he only goes to the neighbours though, thankfully! Meg:)

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  23. Oh Christina, thank you for sharing this post, I'm sorry there are worries and strains at the moment, however it is also good to read a post that is honest. I am thinking of you and hoping for some calmer days ahead for you! Katie

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